Beatrix Mae [8 months]

October 21, 2014


I'm about ten days writing this update, which makes remembering what happened before she turned eight months really hard. She's at the point where she's learning something new just about every day. Where she mimics and moves and picks up new things so quickly!

In the past month, she learned my favourite baby trick - clapping her hands! I love watching her blue eyes light up and her chubby little hands come together. Anytime we say "yay!" she claps. Even if she's in the middle of eating or in a fit of tears - we'll say "yay" and she'll start to clap. I can tell she just loves the attention she gets from it! She also started waving, but mid-way through the month traded that trick in for a new (and better) one - HIGH FIVES! Haha...sometimes she'll throw up her hand for a high five and will just wait, silently, until someone notices her and reciprocates.

The biggest news, is that Bea is now on the move! She learned to army crawl and gets just a teeny bit faster every day. I know that by the time I write this update next month she will be flying around this house.

With all Bea's new tricks came some sleep interruptions and separation anxiety. I know that both are common at this age, when babes are learning new skills (especially the crawling one). I was thankful that Kris was home for the bulk of the month and was able to help out at night. We tried a few different tactics to help with sleep, but I think that, in the end, what she needed was some time and some patience from us. At the start of the month, she was waking up every 2-3 hours and by the end she was back to sleeping for 8 hours (and then waking every 1-2 hours until it was time to get up for the day).

The separation anxiety is hard. When I'm within vision, she wants to be in my arms. I wouldn't mind that much if she would let me wear her, but she resists after 10 minutes in a carrier or wrap. So if we went anywhere as a family, I'd have to walk three feet behind Kris with the stroller or carry her in my arms (and she's 20lbs....). Every time I walk to the bathroom and leave her with Kris, she'd cry (until I was out of sight - then she was over it). If we go to Target, she won't stay in the cart for more than 10 minutes. I know it's just a phase and I should appreciate all the snuggles - but MY ARMS ARE SORE. :)

This month is special for a few reasons. Kris was home for the bulk of it, and it'll probably be the only time that we're both off work for, I don't know - ever? It was so nice to have the time together and to be with Bea. She is at such a fun age and I'm so glad we both had the chance to absorb it as much as possible. It's also the last full month of my maternity leave. I'll be returning to work shortly before she turns 9 months and so I'm trying to enjoy this time with her as much as possible (she makes it pretty easy). She's so amazing.

CURRENTLY [link up]

THE DEAL: 
Use our themes or use your own - just let us know what is 'currently' up with you!
Be sure to stop by and say hello to the other blogger's linking up - especially my lovely co-host Lindsey from Ot & Et.

THIS WEEKS THEMES:
appreciating, feeling, looking, regretting, playing

Kale is currently appreciating when I let him do things on his own that he wouldn't normally be allowed to do. Like cutting apples with a sharp knife. Last night we made apple crisp (using apples we picked on the weekend!) and after showing him how to slice, turn, and chop the apples, I took a deep breath and handed over the knife. He takes such pride in doing things on his own, and this was no exception. I may have came close to losing an eye and a few finger tips (as did he), but it was totally worth it when, last night as we were lying in bed, he whispered, "making apple crisp with you was so much fun today, mama." The whole experience was a reminder of how independent he is, how much he excels when he knows I trust him, and how important it is to do things with him one-on-one. 

I am currently feeling a lot of not great feelings. I only have three more weeks left of my maternity leave and my heart is breaking at the thought of leaving Beatrix for the day and not being there to pick up Kale every day. We're also in the midst of a municipal election that has me worried about the fate of our amazing city. Kris has less than a week before he's away again for another two weeks, which has me freaking out about doing it all my own again (even though the last time he was away for two weeks went so much better than I imagined). I'm feeling stressed about returning to work, as I can already see the work piling up. Ugh. And on top of it all? I have a HORRIBLE cold. Ugh. Who wants to come to my pity party?

Beatrix is currently looking to be attached to me 24/7. I know that separation anxiety peaks at this age and that it's compounded by the fact she's learning to crawl and realizing that we're not, in fact, the same person. However, separation anxiety with a baby that doesn't love to be worn is HARD. She won't even accepting sitting beside me - she has to be ON me. I can't be in the same room as her without her going nuts, which means I haven't had a meaningful conversation with Kris for DAYS. Ah well. At least I know that it's just a stage (and the extra snuggles make it all kind of worth it). 

I am currently regretting the fact that I've spent the past four or five years haphazardly organizing my photo's on flickr pro. I just kept uploading my pictures every month without deleting the bad ones or tagging anyone.  So last month I spent hours online looking for a storage program that had what I wanted, only to decide to do it all manually (sorting, tagging, & filing). My flickr pro account runs out at the end of the month, so I'm on a mission to get all my photo's off there. Lesson learned, friends! 

next weeks themes: 
YOU TELL US! I've run out of steam at the end of this post. I couldn't even finishing typing something for the last theme. I need to go drink a gallon of ginger ale and vitamin D and pass out in a pile of kleenex. So yes - please suggest themes for next week!! 


APPLE PICKING

October 13, 2014

After going back and forth all week about whether or not to make the trek to my parents for Thanksgiving, we finally decided the drive was too long to justify a such a short visit and stayed home instead. It's a good thing too, since Kale, Bea and I are all battling a cold and I woke up yesterday morning feeling like I got hit by a truck. Despite feeling awful, I just couldn't bear the thought of staying indoors, since it was, by far, the nicest fall day we've had. So we hopped in the car and drove to a popular apple orchard to try and take advantage of the beautiful day and I crossed my fingers extra tight that the fresh air would make me feel better.

We hadn't been to this particular spot before, but I'd heard a lot about it. Not quite sure what to expect, I was completely astounded by how much there was to do - kids play area, petting zoo, straw mazes, BBQ, pony rides, and, of course, lots, and lots of apples. As per usual, Kale wanted to do EVERYTHING IMMEDIATELY. Going on adventures like this often feels like a marathon - chasing Kale from one thing to the next. As much as it makes us crazy (and exhausted) his smile made it all worth it.

Beatrix wasn't feeling that great, but pulled through. It was a bit tough since she refuses to be carried by Kris if I'm in her sight about 90% of the time, yet doesn't want to be worn. So I did a lot of lugging her around on my hip and passing her off to Kris when I needed a break and then running around with Kale to stay out of her vision.

The best part of the day was definitely when we got into the orchard. Kale was free to run around and absolutely loved picking the apples, and Bea was content to sit in the grass and gum away at the apples her brother picked. Kris and I both took the opportunity to stretch out on the grass and bask in the sun and catch our breath.

Our measurement of success on adventures like this is usually how fast the kids fall asleep in the car on the way home. Beatrix was passed out before we even reversed out of our parking spot and Kale was snoring within 10 minutes.

Lately Kale has been in a bit of a bummer stage. Everything is "not fun!" or "boring" or "whatever," so when we asked him how his day was and he said, "It was so much fun!" - we knew it must have been really, really good.






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THE DEAL: 
Use our themes or use your own - just let us know what is 'currently' up with you!
Be sure to stop by and say hello to the other blogger's linking up - especially my lovely co-host Lindsey from Ot & Et.

THIS WEEKS THEMES:
reading, thinking, feeling, eating, dreaming

I am currently reading Not that kind of girl by Lena Dunham. Well, technically I haven't started reading it, but it is on the top of the pile of books I plan to read on my nightstand. Never mind that there is a thick layer of dust on these books, I will get to Dunham's book this weekend. I know (because I am an avid Jezebel reader) that not everyone loves Dunham, but I am a fan and am looking forward to diving into her book. 

Kale is currently thinking about what he wants to be for halloween. We're starting to get to the point where there are few options left in the stores and most definitely do not have the skills to make something. Unfortunately, Kale changes his mind every day and comes up with things like "a monster wearing a witch hat holding an egg." I mean, I can make that happen, but is it really something he's going to want to explain on every doorstep? 

Beatrix is currently feeling her first tooth coming through. It is definitely taking it's sweet time, but the bump under her gums gets bigger and bigger every day. She's handling it pretty well, but I can tell her patience is wearing thin. 

Kale is currently getting very specific about what he's eating. He's always been an amazing eater, but we've seen a change in the past few weeks. He's suddenly telling us he doesn't like things that he's always loved and turning his nose up at dinner. I blame this on the fact that the kids are bringing packed lunches to school for the first time (they were previously catered by the school). I have a feeling there is a whole lot of comparing lunches and sharing opinions going on during the lunch hour, which is shaping Kale's thoughts on food. 

I am currently not dreaming because that would require me to actually sleep...something that is not happening a lot in this house lately. 


Her name.


Just like with Kale, our goal when coming up with a name for our daughter was to find something that is a little bit different, but also simple. It just turned out that finding that name for a girl was a lot harder than it was for a boy. If you're interested in knowing more about Kale's name, you can read that here.  

Before we found out the gender, I started storing a list of names I liked in my phone. Since I was 99.9% sure that I was having another boy, the list of girl names was basically nonexistent, and the list of boys was pretty short (Kris and I both had our favourites). When we found out we were having a girl, I kind of panicked. Kris was all for strong German names like Ingeborg and I was pretty much at a loss. As the days flittered away, I was closer and closer to birthing an Inga or Gertrude. 

The truth is, I did have two names on my list that I absolutely loved, but couldn't use them for different reasons. My favourite was Clementine. I so, so, so love this name. But could I really have two kids sharing names with food?!? I wavered between just going for it and owning it and not caring what anyone thought about my garden of children, and having moments of sanity that told me people will fail to take me seriously in life if I have two "food kids." But seriously. Clementine is a GREAT name. Please use it! As for my other favourite name, I'm keeping it secret just in case. I don't even want to tell you why I didn't use it because you may figure it out and it's already gaining in popularity and I need to lock that down. 

And then there was Beatrix. A name we came across early and while others were being added and removed, this name stayed. We decided to go with the x, rather than with Beatrice, because we think it adds a little bit of spunk. We like the short form - Bea. We mostly pronounce it "Bee," but sometimes "Bee-uh." We never say "trixie." 

Most of all, we like the meaning of the name. What sold us on Kale's name was the meaning - free spirit. He absolutely lives up to this and so we took meaning into careful consideration. I honestly looked up names that meant "good listener" (Samantha) and "great sleeper" (Lulie). But when I read the meaning of Beatrix - bringer of happiness - it was pretty much decided. 

As the weeks ticked down to my due date, we had three potential names. Oddly enough, I don't even remember the other two. For one week, we told Kale the names and asked him to pick his favourite. Every day he picked Beatrix. And then he just started calling her Beatrix. And so we had a name. A perfect, wonderful name.